Your Weekly Motivation
“At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your success and your failure. And the sooner you realize that, you accept that, and integrate that into your work ethic, you will start being successful. As long as you blame others for the reason you aren’t where you want to be, you will always be a failure.”
~ Erin Cummings
Do you know anyone that constantly blames others for his/her failures in life? We often hear things like, “If only I had a better teacher,” “My supervisor did not train me properly,” “If only I had gone to a better school or lived in a better community” etc. etc. People come up with all sorts of excuses as to why their life may not be how they would like it to be; passing on blame for their failures. In the quote above, Erin Cummings is implying that no matter what circumstances we may face in life, we must realize that we are solely responsible for our individual lives, the good and the bad, success and failure. Cummings says as soon as we realize this and stop blaming others we will start being successful.
I asked the question above, “Do you know anyone that constantly blames others for his/her failures in life?” Well let’s examine ourselves, do you find yourself constantly blaming others for failures in your life? Someone once said, “Blaming others undermines your ability to take responsibility for your own life.” In other words, when you blame others you’re making yourself out to be weak. You’re indirectly saying that you don’t have the ability to control your own life.
I am certain that none of us as adults want to give someone else power over our lives. We must therefore learn to take responsibility for our own lives. According to Dictionary.com, the word responsibility means, “the state or fact of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one’s power, control, or management.” I read something recently that said responsibility is made up of two words, response and ability. It went on to say that we have the ability to determine what our response would be in every situation.
So how can you take responsibility for your own life?
You may wish that you had better parents or that they were able to provide you with all of your needs and wants while growing up. You may not have grown up in the community, city or country that you would have liked to, your parents may not have sent you to the school you desired to go to or they may not have been able to send you off to college. You are now in your thirties and still blaming your parents for the way your life turned out. How long are you going to blame them for the misfortunes that you face in life? Take responsibility for your own life. Instead of blaming your parents, try and see what you can do to make your life better.
If you are still a youth living at home with your parents and they are not able to provide you with all that you desire, this should make you more determined to make a better life for yourself by working hard in school, disciplining yourself so that you may one day have an opportunity to go to college if you choose to and acquire the things that you desire. Make the best of what you have while working to ensure a better future for yourself.
As an adult it’s high time you stopped crying over what you wished you had in your childhood and do what you can to make a better life for yourself, now and for your children or future children. You may not have gone to college like you would have liked to but you can still pursue studies, whether it be going off, attending a college on island or doing it online. You can still go after that dream you once had for your life. As the saying goes, “It is never too late, to be what you could have been.”
As adults, many of us do not like to do introspection, examining ourselves, recognizing our flaws and faults and how we may have played a part in the failures we experience, be it in a relationship, on the job, or any type of failure.
I read the story below in “The Word For You Today” Devotional this past week:
“Sally managed a small marketing company, and when problems arose she automatically looked for a scapegoat. At sales meetings she berated and criticized her coworkers, choosing to call her tirades ‘pep talks.’ Her associates began to resign in droves, and when company revenues declined Sally blamed it on the slow economy, inefficient staff, and bad working conditions. Finally her boss had enough and fired her. Blame shifting was how Sally survived. It never occurred to her that she may have contributed to the problem, in even a small way.”
Introspection time, can you relate to Sally? Are you always blaming others when things go wrong in your business or on the job? Are you a manager or supervisor or leader of any team that always wants to take the praise when your team succeeds but be quick to pass the blame when your team fails? As a quote by renowned author and speaker and leadership guru John Maxwell, says, “Everything rises and falls on leadership.” This means whether your team succeeds or fails it is a reflection of you as a leader.
So, from this day forward, let us all learn to do introspections, identify our flaws, recognize our mistakes and learn from them, stop passing on the blame for failures in our lives and take responsibility for our own lives!
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