Your Weekly Motivation
Don’t allow others to dump their garbage on you!
“Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment….And if you let them, they’ll dump on you. So when someone wants to dump on you, don’t take it personally ... move on.”
~ David J. Pollay
I read the above quote some years ago in a book, The Law of the Garbage Truck, by David J. Pollay. I was reminded of the quote recently because of something that I was dealing with.
Last week was a very busy week for me. In the midst of all that I was doing, my mind was preoccupied because of a message that I received from someone who apparently had a problem with me for some time and I didn’t even know. As I tried to concentrate on the things that I should have been doing, I kept thinking of this message and then reminded myself that I cannot allow others to dump their garbage on me.
As stated in the quote above, there are many people who are like garbage trucks, they are filled with garbage: frustration, anger, disappointment etc. and if you’re not careful they will dump their garbage on you. In most cases, their garbage has nothing to do with you but as the saying goes, “Misery loves company”. Just because they may be unhappy or miserable they try to make you feel the same way. In some cases just because you seem to be happy and enjoying life some people may become envious or jealous of you and therefore have a problem with you.
You may come into these type of people who are filled with garbage and looking for a dump, quite often, sometimes on a daily basis. So, how do you deal with them? How do you not allow others to dump their garbage on you? It’s all about having a positive attitude!
A quote by Herm Albright says, “A positive attitude may not solve all of your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.” While this quote may be humorous, it is so true. There are people who become angry at others simply because they have a positive attitude. For example, there may be several persons working on the same job. Some may be unhappy with the job and griping and complaining all the time while another person may maintain a positive attitude, being pleasant and continuing to perform on the job. Those who are unhappy and complaining may become annoyed by the person with the positive attitude wondering how he or she could remain so positive working in the same environment.
There are also those who may have personal problems such as relationship problems. They see you looking happy, bouncing around the office being bubbly all the time and that may annoy them, simply because they are unhappy.
Having a positive attitude does not mean that you do not have any problems but you understand that your attitude is under your control. Rather than being a pessimist, complaining all the time, you choose to be an optimist, seeing good in every situation and realizing that while everything may not be as you would like it to be, things will get better and you can play a part in making it so. In having a positive attitude you also realize that circumstances do not define who you are nor do they determine your happiness. You choose your reaction in every situation.
There are some people who would have a problem with you simply because you seem to be striving, going after your dreams, trying to make a better life for yourself in spite of all that may be going on around you. As long as you know, you’re not doing anything to intentionally hurt anyone, you cannot worry about what others think about you. As a quote by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross says, “The (negative) opinion which other people have of you is their problem, not yours.” We must all realize that we could never please everyone. People will always find something to talk about you but continue to be unapologetically you. Do not allow others to dump their garbage on you.
Some people dislike others and don’t even really know them. They judge them based on what others may have said or simply say there is just something they don’t like about the person. A quote by an unknown author says, “If they don’t know you personally, don’t take it personal.”
Realize that in most cases when people have a problem with you, it is because of something that they are dealing with, something that they may not like about themselves. You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness so don’t become weighed down, worrying about how you can make them happy or changing yourself simply to please others. Each of us are responsible for our own lives.
Some of us may also be guilty of dumping our garbage on others sometimes. Just as we should not allow others to dump their garage on us, we should also be mindful that we don’t dump our garbage on others.
So when others try to dump their garbage on you, remember to always maintain a positive attitude, do not take on their problems and do not allow their opinions of you to bring you down or deter you from going after your dreams. Your continual positive attitude towards them can eventually change their attitudes.
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