Your Weekly Motivation
Fear is defined as a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined. It is the feeling or condition of being afraid.
What stood out to me most in this definition is the phrase, “whether the threat is real or imagined.” Most of our fears are unfounded; they derive from things that we imagine may happen. It is amazing how things that we imagine may happen can cause such fear that it paralyzes us, bringing about a condition of helpless stoppage, inactivity or the inability to act.
Fear is a normal emotion; it is okay to be afraid sometimes, however, the problem arises when we allow the fear to paralyze us, to stop us from trying something or pursuing our dreams. We must learn to conquer our fears. Nelson Mandela once said, “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
What fear do you need to conquer? Many people have various types of fears: fear of heights, fear of flying, fear of dying, fear of spiders, etc. but today I am focusing on the fear that really paralyzes many persons, keeping them from pursuing their dreams, the fear of failure.
Even if you were to try something and fail at it, you still would have won the victory over fear itself. You can always learn from the mistakes that may have been made and try again but if you allow fear to paralyze you and never try, then you would never know what you can accomplish.
Bill Cosby once said, “In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.”
Fear can indeed paralyze us. Many persons have gone to the grave without venturing to pursue their dreams simply because of fear. It keeps us imprisoned or in bondage; it stops us from living a fulfilling life. We must be liberated from our fears. So how can we do this? It all begins with our mind, the way we think of ourselves or the way we see ourselves. Proverbs 23:7 says, “As a man thinketh, so is he.”
An excerpt from the book, “A Return to love”, by Marianne Williamson says, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
You are indeed powerful beyond measure, full of light, brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous. You were meant to shine and manifest the glory of God in you.
2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. We have been empowered by God to succeed it is up to us to conquer our fears and tap into that power.
So many persons are paralyzed by fear. They are just waiting on someone that they know to take that first step, to be an example to them. As the end of the excerpt from the book “A Return to love”, cited above says, “As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
I once heard someone say, “There is somebody waiting on the other side of your hurdle, so their race can begin.” Who can you inspire today by making a decision to conquer your fear, jump your hurdle and pursue your passion? If you are a parent, how about being an example to your child/children by conquering your fear and going after something you have always wanted to do. Be an example to them of the saying, “Nothing beats a failure but a try.”
In an online article, “4 Mental Tricks to Conquer Fear” by Geoffrey James, he said, “Fear is the enemy of success. Large rewards only result from taking comparably large risks. If you’re ruled by fear, you’ll never take enough risks and never achieve the success you deserve.”
To all of you reading this column, who may have been paralyzed for some time by fear, I encourage you to conquer that fear today. Take action by doing that thing that you have allowed fear to hold you back from doing for so long. Have a plan. Instead of imagining yourself failing, imagine yourself being very successful in your endeavours. Do not give up at the first sign of problems; obstacles will come your way but if it is something that you are really passionate about and believe is your purpose in life, keep trying. Remember, nothing beats a failure but a try. Don’t allow fear to paralyze you!
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